The Remedy
Monthly Newsletter
July 2024
Upcoming Events
Unconditional Love: Building Relationships that Work
July 17th @ 5:30pm
Floating Sound Bath & Guided Meditation
For self love and deep release
Aug 4th @ 6pm-8pm
Bestie Spa Day
Coming Soon!
Mindful Message of the Month
Serenity: The Balance of Control & Release
We hear some variation of the phrase “control your controllables” all the time. Having experienced the chaos of the world over the last 35 years and the constant ebbs and flows of my personal and professional life, it makes sense to me that we feel the need to control everything in our grasp. But how do we know when it’s time to grab control and when it’s time to loosen our grip?
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Signs we’re grasping too tight.
We’re reaching for a sense of control over things we just don’t have. We are too worried about what will happen once we’re on the road—commonly this is considered the fear of the unknown. As such, we are highly sensitive and highly reactive to anticipated external factors. Every decision, every argument, every avoidance is about something we believe might happen. We are incredibly overprotective of ourselves, so we are always tense and on the lookout for danger.
We have low confidence because we simply can’t relax in the unknown. Instead of making decisions from a place of peace and safety, everything comes from an insecure place to avoid the threat of danger.
Signs we’re not grasping tight enough
I know there have been times in my life when I avoided going to the mechanic because I was afraid of the price tag associated with whatever laundry list of work they would say needs doing. I’ve driven with brakes squeaking, a tank right on that empty line, and about 4,000 miles beyond my suggested oil change (this is me, adulting is hard!). I start the car with a prayer, sweat bullets while desperately searching my GPS for the nearest gas station, and wish upon all the stars for green lights.
Well, that’s sometimes how we go about living our lives. We avoid all the things we know we need to do for a variety of reasons: time, money, laziness, fear, or simple distraction. All the while, we know we have been neglecting these responsibilities and are painfully aware of the potential consequences hiding behind the next corner.
All the while, we know we have been neglecting these responsibilities and are painfully aware of the potential consequences hiding behind the next corner. That, combined with all of the unknowns, creates an increased level of anxiety because we both know and don’t know the potential danger ahead!
We can’t enjoy the drive, the music, or the breeze from the window, let alone the journey of life, because we know that we have not taken control of our basic responsibilities in order to travel safely.
So, where’s the balance?
First, prepare, prepare, prepare. Do the work, no matter how tedious (or annoying, or expensive), to ensure you have taken care of yourself and prepared yourself for your journey of life. Get to know yourself, understand your triggers, head to a doctor (and a therapist) for a check-up, get language for your feelings and educate yourself. In short: take care of your body, mind, and spirit.
The second answer is more difficult, but it is at the root of most anxiety: find stillness in the chaos of life so that you can know peace.
You are bound to be disappointed! Not getting the job, the business or relationship failing, shame, embarrassment: they all feel like failure because in some ways they are. They are the failure of an outcome you expected or hoped for, but they are not the failure of you.
You have been given the gift of resilience; you just have to trust that you have it and activate it when you need it. Doing our best without any certainty that it will be enough is an act of courage that can create a sense of peace if we let it. It’s up to you to release yourself from the need to control the outcome, so you can enjoy the journey.
Resources &
Updates
Community Spotlight
Kayani Turner (they/them) is the founder and CEO of KfiT Whole Body Wellness. Kayani has spent decades in the wellness space and created KfiT Whole Body Wellness out of their passion for people to thrive in who they are. KfiT offers 1:1 virtual holistic wellness and life coaching, to help Queer POC find safety in their body, identity and relationships. Additionally KfiT offers in person assisted stretching, to help folx release stored up energy, tension and stress in the body. You can find more information about coaching and stretching at www.kfitwbw.com.
The Remedy Recap: The World of Gender Identities
June’s Remedy discussion on "The World of Gender Identity” was enlightening and transformative, shedding light on the diverse experiences and challenges faced by individuals exploring their gender identities. Our panelists shared invaluable insights on unlearning outdated misconceptions, fostering inclusivity, and advocating for equity in various spaces. We delved into the importance of support from loved ones and the broader community, emphasizing the role of education and respectful dialogue in driving societal change. Through personal stories and practical advice, we gained a deeper understanding of how to build more supportive and inclusive environments for everyone. Let's continue these conversations, challenge our perceptions, and work together to create a world that celebrates and respects all gender identities. Check out the whole conversation and connect with our panelists on our Instagram: @theremedy.community
Books for the Spirit
Resource List
Self Care Challenge!
Write Yourself a Love Letter! Take a moment to celebrate your journey, your strengths, and your unique qualities. Reflect on your achievements and express gratitude for all that you are. Romance yourself with compliments, promises, and kind words. This powerful act of self-love will inspire and uplift you. Share your experiences and encourage others to embrace self-love too!
To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.
Oscar Wilde
Whether this is your first exploration of inner space, or you’ve devoted your life to the inward journey, this book will transform your relationship with yourself and the world around you. You’ll discover what you can do to put an end to the habitual thoughts and emotions that limit your consciousness. By tapping into traditions of meditation and mindfulness, author and spiritual teacher Michael A. Singer shows how the development of consciousness can enable us all to dwell in the present moment and let go of painful thoughts and memories that keep us from achieving happiness and self-realization.
- Free Baltimore Behavioral Health Clinic - dedicated to helping LGTBQIA+ and marginalized communities achieve optimal mental health.
- Baltimore Free Farm - a collective of gardeners and activists who strive to be egalitarian and aim to provide access to healthy food for all.
- Summ Fitness Total Body Training - group fitness training for peace of mind.
- Ciarra Photography & Studio - portrait studio in Baltimore City.
- Daily Braindump Resource - To help you clear your mind.
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